I found CozyCraft and it feels like a calm survival place that is all about building and taking your time.
There is no PvP so people are not out to fight you. It also says no pay to win so it stays fair.
The world does not reset ever so your builds and progress are meant to stick around. It is mostly vanilla so it keeps that normal Minecraft feel.
You can play on Java and Bedrock so it works for different players.
Cozy Survival Builds No Drama Ever
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPGenuine Long Term Vanilla SMP
MyntonSMP is a long term vanilla survival server with a real community and around 70 players. People build towns and the spawn area is built up too.
It is not anarchy and it is not strict roleplay. The point is freedom and meeting other players and letting stories happen naturally.
There are no land claims and no forced factions. You can build trade explore and team up. PvP can happen but it needs a clear reason and random killing and griefing are not allowed.
The server uses Simple Voice Chat so people actually talk. It runs on Java Edition 1.21.10 and the rules are community driven for players who want a stable SMP.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP