I found a small Towny and SMP server called GamerHub Towny that is meant to be super chill. The big focus is no grief and no stealing so people can just build and relax.
Players mostly work on towns and try to grow them over time. There is also money ranks and towns to compete for so you always have something to aim at.
It has jobs and MCMMO and an in game ranking system. You can play on a vanilla map and there is also an Earth map option.
Trading is a big part too with player warps and player shops plus a sell only server shop. The community is friendly and active across AU EU and US timezones.
Chill No Grief Towny SMP Hangout
casual builder havenJobs and Skillslight competition funPeaceful survival vibeVanilla-style gameplay
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPTrue Vanilla Hardcore SMP Huge World
I found a true vanilla hardcore SMP with a smaller community and it sticks to the game how it was meant to be. There are no ranks and no pay to win and no extra commands outside the normal vanilla ones.
When you spawn you get a few starter items plus invis and regen so you can get away from the spawn area. If you die you get banned for a temporary time and if you run out of lives you are banned for the rest of the season so you have to play careful.
The server is online 24 7 and it has a massive 80k by 80k world border so there is still lots of space and loot to find. It also supports multiple versions and has crossplay so different players can join.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPSemi Vanilla Survival SMP With Shops
adventure and buildingCommunity first SMPLand protection toolsPvE focused gameplayResource World Resets
This is a semi vanilla survival SMP where the main thing is the community plus economy and building cool stuff.
It has land claiming so your base stays safe and it is PvE focused with no griefing and no keep inventory.
The economy uses diamonds so people trade for real and there are player shops plus a shops GUI so you can browse shops fast.
It supports Java and Bedrock crossplay so more friends can join. There is also a live world map you can open in your browser.
The server uses separate resource worlds so the main world does not get wrecked. There are ranks and vote rewards and they run weekly events with a friendly community.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP