Farmlands is a cozy survival server with a small community feel and it is whitelisted so people apply to join.
It is made for players who like to take their time. Long term builds and farms and projects are the main point and you can play without feeling rushed.
The main world is meant to last so your base and your work stays important. There is also a separate resource world that resets sometimes so getting materials does not mess up the place where you live.
The vibe is safe and relaxed with rules against griefing and stealing and toxicity. It stays close to vanilla with a few quality of life changes and a custom advancement pack for extra challenges.
The economy is player driven so you can trade or run a shop. There are no ranks and no pay to win stuff so it feels fair.
Cozy Whitelisted Survival With Lasting Builds

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Nightfall Realms is a relaxed survival SMP where people build and play at their own pace. It is focused on creativity and community and it pushes a zero toxicity vibe.
The server is still growing so new players can help shape it. There is no pay to win stuff and you can get vote ranks for perks just by voting.
It runs on Java 1.21.11 and it supports crossplay so Java and Bedrock players can join together. It feels like a place to build explore and just hang out.
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I found a chill long term SMP that is meant for people who want to play at their own pace and just build and survive.
They say the world has no resets so you can stick around and keep your progress. The community is supposed to be active and relaxed with no griefers and no drama.
There is a simple economy plus voice chat. PvP is optional since there is a toggle. It also has a Bedrock port for people who want to join that way.
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