I found Bound SMP and it feels like survival is supposed to feel. The whole point is that your choices matter and the bounds can change how you play.
It runs all day and the hosting is really strong. They say no lag and they have a dev team that stays on bugs so stuff gets fixed.
The server is for people who want real competition and big builds plus a player driven economy. You can make alliances and start rivalries and there are events with steady updates.
They also make it clear there is no pay to win and they do not want dead chat or staff power trips. You can grind for money build something huge or try to get known in pvp.
You can join on Java and Bedrock.
