I found a survival multiplayer server called Vessel SMP and it is made for people who just love Minecraft.
It is trying to be non toxic so it feels more chill and friendly when you play with others.
You can join on Java Edition or Bedrock Edition so more people can play together.
The Anchor is a survival SMP that is trying hard to treat players seriously and actually listen to feedback. It feels like the kind of place where staff wants the community to be seen and where big changes get thought through with players first.
It supports cross play so Java and Bedrock players can be on the same server. The overworld is meant to never reset so your progress can stay for the long run. There is also a separate resource world that resets monthly so you can gather materials without ruining the main world.
The server has playtime based ranks with longer gaps between them so it feels earned. There is also a claim system that protects builds and claimed areas cannot be griefed. After you reach the second rank your claims are permanent.
There is a tag system too. By voting or using the vote shop you can get keys for a crate that can give one of 42 unique tags to show next to your name. You can try to collect them all and later you may be able to trade them.
I found 6b6t and it is an anarchy server that is like 2b2t but with less rules.
People say there are around 150 to 250 players online every day and there is no queue so you can just get in.
Java and Bedrock and MCPE can play and cracked players are allowed too so it feels super open and chaotic.
InqySMP is a semi vanilla survival server that just started so you are not joining super late and miles behind everyone.
It is basically vanilla with a few plugins and commands for convenience like teleport requests and random teleport. It also has one player sleep so nights are not a big pain.
You can build fight and loot and play how you want. The server is up 24 7 and the community is friendly and welcoming.
There is no pay to win here. There is only one rank that costs a small amount and it only gives perks.
You can join on both Bedrock and Java.
Purgatory SMP is an already established survival server with a hardcore revive setup so dying actually matters and you have to play smart.
It is cross play between Bedrock and Java so both kinds of players can join as long as you are not on console.
They want new members who will play a lot and stay active.
I found a small friendly Towny and SMP server called GamerHub Towny. It is made for chilling but it can still feel casually competitive. The community is welcoming and you can usually find people around in AU EU and US timezones.
The rules are clear and it is no grief and no stealing. They also say there are no resets ever so your progress stays.
You can build claim land and grow a town with Towny. It also has Jobs MCMMO and an in game ranking system. There is Dynmap so you can see the world. You get player warps and player shops plus a sell only server shop.
It runs on version 1.21.x and it also supports Bedrock players.
CozyCraft is a cozy survival server where people mostly build and relax. It is made for players who want a peaceful place and do not want to worry about losing their world.
The server has no PvP so players are not fighting each other. It also has no resets ever so your builds are meant to stay.
It is mostly vanilla survival with a few quality of life tweaks. There is also no pay to win so everyone is on the same level.
It supports both Java and Bedrock so more friends can play together. The vibe is slow and chill and the community is friendly.
Warriors SMP is a survival server with a bunch of different ways to play. You can fight other players or just chill and mine then sell your ores for quick cash.
It has an economy with a shop and an auction house so you can trade items with other players. You can also make farms and stack money over time.
If you want more action you can create a team with friends and go to war with other teams to claim lands. There is a bounty system and a leaderboard so you can see who is really on top.
It runs on version 1.21.11 and it supports both Java and Bedrock players. There are also events giveaways and a fun chat community.
Origin SMP is a survival multiplayer server that just started a new season and it runs on 1.21 for Java and Bedrock.
The whole vibe is story driven and competitive. PvP has a tier system where getting kills moves you up and dying drops you down so fights actually matter.
There is proximity voice chat so people can talk in game and make deals or start beef right on the spot.
There are no land claims so the world is run by trust and politics instead of protection plugins. The world is also finite at 2500 by 2500 blocks so players run into each other a lot.
It is semi anarchy so a lot is allowed but random griefing with no story or purpose can get rolled back to protect the long term SMP stuff.
Deadmans Land is a Vanilla+ SMP where the whole point is survival with real danger. It feels like a place made for raiders and PvP players where nobody is going to protect you.
PvP is always a threat and if you cannot defend your stuff then it can be taken. Raiding is on so people can break into bases and take loot. Griefing is also allowed so you should build smart and stay ready.
It also has custom enchantments so players can push past normal vanilla limits. There are QOL enhancements too so you can play in new ways to get an edge.
The server supports both Bedrock and Java and it is cross version so you do not have to worry about matching one exact version. Staff is active and they say it is not pay to win.