So I found this server called ChillGrindSMP and it is just a simple Java survival world that feels really relaxed.
It runs on version 1.20.10 and it uses ViaVersion so people on a bunch of different Java versions can still join together. That makes it easier if you do not like updating all the time.
The main thing here is no griefing. People are not allowed to wreck your builds or steal your stuff so you can actually spend time building and grinding without worrying about it getting ruined.
There is a gravestone plugin too. When you die your items go into a grave so you do not just lose everything. It makes the server feel less stressful because one mistake does not destroy your whole progress.
They also have a simple player economy. It is not super complex and it is meant to be easy for everyone to use. It fits the chill style of the server.
There is no pay to win stuff at all. No crates and no weird monetization tricks. Everyone plays on the same level which is nice if you are tired of servers that sell power.
The community is small and pretty chill and it feels welcoming if you just want a place to relax grind and build with other players.
