I found a hardcore SMP that is trying to feel like those Minecraft civilization videos but it runs all the time and it is not just a one time event.
It is invite only and the only way new people get in is if someone already inside invites them. This is meant to keep the community active and help avoid trolls.
The server has secret tweaks and mechanics and they do not give you guides. You are supposed to figure things out yourself which makes paying attention really matter.
There is also a built in clan and family system so you do not just show up alone in a hardcore world. You join as part of a group and you end up being part of an ongoing story.
Hardcore Civilization SMP With Bloodlines
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPRosedalean 18+ SMP Enhanced Vanilla
Rosedalean SMP is a Java survival server that feels like enhanced vanilla and it is inspired by Hermitcraft. It is built around community and creativity so people can build big stuff share ideas and hang out.
It welcomes casual players and also the super dedicated ones so you can play at your own pace. Players can join factions help run events or just relax with friends.
It is 18+ and you have to apply first which helps keep things respectful and helps avoid griefing. The server uses add ons so you do not need to download or install mods.
It also has simple voice chat a big world to explore Terralith biomes a ticket system a blue map and custom armour trims. They also want player suggestions and take the community seriously.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP