I found a survival server that is all about chaos with pvp and griefing allowed. The world is meant to last and it will never be reset so anything you build or destroy stays part of the history.
They do not allow cheats like hacking or item duping. They also say there are no chat reports and you can say what you want unless it is illegal content.
One cool thing is a custom coded plugin that lets you make portals that teleport you back to your base. It feels like a gameplay version of a home command so travel still matters. The admins are not supposed to be clingy or follow you around either.
No Reset Chaos PvP Survival 1.21.11

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FabricCraft is a survival server that sticks close to real vanilla mechanics because it runs on Fabric. It is made for people who build farms and redstone and want stuff to work the way it should.
It is semi anarchy so rules are minimal and players have a lot of freedom. There are no land claims so fights and raids can happen and the world feels risky.
There are also no world resets so the map stays persistent and player made history matters. People form alliances and trade then rivalries pop off.
They do not allow hacked clients or mods that give an advantage over other players. There is also a simple voice chat mod available for everyone.
If you like speedrunning there is a manhunt gamemode you can play too.
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I found a new PvP survival multiplayer server that wants dedicated players to jump in early
The world is a 10000 by 10000 block map so it stays tight and people run into each other more
The End is locked right now so the fighting and progress stays more controlled
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