I found a whitelisted survival server made for adults who have busy lives but still want a steady place to build with friends. Most players are in the 30 to 40 plus range and it is a 21 plus community.
It is pure vanilla gameplay on Hard difficulty. The vibe is peaceful with no PVP and no griefing. It feels like a relaxed place where people help each other and let you do your own thing.
The best part is there are no server resets so your builds and items will still be there when you come back after a break. The server is US based privately owned and they say it is lag free and has been running for almost two years.
It runs on Java 1.21.11 and the rules sound simple with no weird stuff.
Mature Whitelisted Vanilla SMP No Resets
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPElysium SMP Reopened Creative Whitelist
Elysium is a small Java server that just reopened with a fresh start in early November. It used to be public back in 2022 then it closed at the start of 2024. Now it is back and looking for mostly 18 plus players to join the community.
There are three main worlds. Survival is on 1.21.10 with a 10k by 10k border and mcMMO skills. It tries to feel more vanilla since teleport commands are off except for a bed home. People use Nether roof travel instead. There is also a shopping district at spawn where players can set up chest shops and diamonds are the money.
Plots gives players 85 by 85 creative plots so you can build in peace. You start with one plot and can earn more by ranking up in the build ranks.
Creative is a superflat freebuild world for bigger builds and community projects. You can work together if everyone agrees. Griefing or changing someone else build without permission is not allowed.
There is a Hub world for traveling between worlds and you can use spawn or hub to get there. It has hangout spots and an amphitheater for community events. There is also a second Creative world that is only for higher build ranks.GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP