Purgatory SMP is a hardcore style survival server where dying actually matters. It has a special revival plugin so players can bring each other back using player heads or totems. That means you really want to stick with your friends and protect each other.
The owners want about 150 or more people in the community before the season starts so everyone can hop in around the same time and no one is super far ahead. It feels like they are trying to make a big first day rush where the world is fresh for everyone.
The server is made for Java players and they are also trying to let Bedrock players join by using stuff like Geyser. So it is mainly Java but they are working to make it possible for Bedrock people too.
Overall it looks like a sweaty hardcore server where death is scary but not totally the end if your friends can clutch a revival.
Purgatory SMP Hardcore Revival Challenge

Chill Semi Vanilla Forever Survival

This is a calm Survival server that feels old school and simple. It is made for builders who want a peaceful place to play for a long time.
There is no PvP so everyone works together. The world is meant to last forever and they say it will never wipe.
Gameplay stays close to vanilla with only minimal plugins. There are no pay to win tricks so it feels fair for everyone and you can just play at your own pace.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPDeadMans Land Classic Factions PvP Survival

DeadMan's Land is a Minecraft Java server that feels like classic factions with survival at the center of everything.
People team up and form factions then they build up bases and try to grow into a big empire.
It is all about PvP and raiding rivals and taking their stuff if you can pull it off.
The server also runs custom events and the fights are meant to feel balanced so it stays fair but still brutal. The vibe is basically kill or be killed.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPHaven SMP Chill 18+ Semi Vanilla
Community-Driven BuildsCozy multiplayer survivalhermit style gameplayplayer made storiesRelaxed server vibe
Haven SMP is a chill long term survival server that feels inspired by Hermitcraft. It is player driven so the world grows from what people build and do together.
It is an 18+ community with friendly respectful players. There is no forced lore and no pressure to do PvP so you can just build and collaborate.
The server runs on version 1.21.11. People say the world has a weird after the end kind of feeling but it is really just a place where everyone stayed and kept building over time.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPRatchy SMP Lifesteal Vanilla Chaos

I found Ratchy SMP and it is a survival server that is mostly vanilla but it uses modpacks too.
The main one mentioned is Lifesteal so players can take hearts and you can also turn hearts into items with a simple command.
The commands are meant to be easy and the owner said they made it for fun. They also said the server can be down sometimes for mod maintenance and you can comment if you want to add mods.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPFresh LifeSteal SMP Fair PvP Start

I found a brand new LifeSteal SMP that just opened and it already had around 10 active players at the start. It is a paid host and it is made for people who want real PvP and want to test their skills.
The server has a 20 heart limit and a 10k world border. There is also a 3 mace limit. Bedrock players are welcome too and it runs on version 1.21.11.
It is trying to stay fair because there are no admins and even the owner does not have OP. There is spawn protection and rules against killing naked players or spawn killing.
It also has regular survival plugins like villager in a bucket and string dupers so it feels like the usual grind but with higher stakes.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP
