I found OakenvaleSMP and it is a survival server with a medieval vibe and a vanilla style setup. It is all about building big projects and exploring while you progress in a tougher world.
Players can start towns and kingdoms and build castles then make alliances or compete with other groups. It has a player driven economy so trading and running a town actually matters.
There are QoL plugins plus custom biomes and expanded random structures so the world feels more interesting to travel through. There are claims and teams so your builds do not get wrecked or looted.
You can also get daily and hourly rewards and check them in game with the rewards command. It supports Java and Bedrock and it runs on version 1.21.10 and the server is located in England.
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Banana Sandwich SMP Season 3

Banana Sandwich SMP is a Java server on version 1.21.11 and it is in Season 3. The season is about 1.5 months in so the early scramble is done and the world feels stable.
It has established roads and builds plus active shops and a safe Mushroom Island hub. The economy is diamond based and the shopping district is busy so you can trade and get started faster.
Proximity voice chat is required and it makes the server feel way more alive. There is a Bluemap so you can watch the world change in real time.
After the End opens in about two weeks the dragon will drop elytra so access feels fair. There are also fun creative tools like invisible item frames custom armor stands and the ability to sit or ride.
The vibe is 18+ and mature and chill and collaborative. It also says zero pay to win so it stays community driven.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPHermitcraft SMP With Proximity Chat

This is a community centered survival server that feels like a Hermitcraft style SMP. It is made by the players for the players and it tries to stay close to vanilla while still adding stuff people actually want.
There is a diamond based economy with a shopping district. Players also work on public builds and bigger projects together. A lot of people use proximity chat so it feels more social when you run into someone.
The server has homes plus some cosmetic and quality of life or just fun plugins. New changes come from community requests and polls. It is Java only on Minecraft 1.21.11 and it is whitelisted and 18 plus only.
It usually has around 5 to 20 people online during the day and there are hundreds of regular active players. If you want friends there are groups looking for new people to join them.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPFresh Towny Factions SMP With McMMO

I found ArcticMC and it is a new SMP that started just a couple days ago. It feels chill and more relaxed than the loud chaos servers.
The main idea is Towny with factions so you can build a town claim land make friends and alliances or try to take territory for yourself. PvP matters here and they use an honor system that is explained in their Discord rules.
It also has McMMO skills so you level up as you play and unlock special abilities like the woodcutting one. There are custom items too and they even have furniture that is entity based so they plan a per chunk limit to help with lag.
The world uses Tectonic generation so the terrain looks realistic with big mountains and valleys and lots of cool places to build. The community is meant to be calm friendly and atmospheric so you can grind build or just vibe.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPChill 1.21.11 Server With Small Crew

This is a chill Minecraft server running on version 1.21.11.
It is a small server with around 10 players so it feels more like a friend group than a huge public place.
If you want to join you have to apply through Discord and the contact is TacticalCitizen.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPClub Evil Semi-Vanilla PvP Anarchy

Club Evil is a laid back survival server that leans mostly vanilla and still keeps the PvP anarchy feel. There are no plots so the world stays open and wild.
The commands are kept super simple with only bed home and spawn. There is no sethome so you actually have to travel and survive.
It is run by players and there are no moderators or OP people flying around. Near spawn there are insanely huge open caves plus mushroom areas and cherry groves by the spawn tree so you can start exploring fast and get into trouble.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP
