I found a server that feels like a chill place to play survival with other people who are actually active. The group sounds friendly and they want more nice players to join in and hang out.

It is cross play so Java and Bedrock players can both connect. The server stays mostly vanilla but it has a few quality of life plugins like Proximity Chat and VeinMiner plus McMMO.

They run the latest Java version and they also let older clients join using ViaVersion. The staff is heavy on moderation so griefing is said to be almost not a thing. It sounds like they are trying to keep a solid long lasting world with a good community.

New Minecraft Server
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