I found this server called Cozy MC and it feels really calm. They can have around 100 players online and it still does not feel crazy or loud. People actually help each other and it feels like a real shared world.
The world is just normal Minecraft survival. It is vanilla so there are no weird plugins changing the game and there are no plots or minigames. Everyone just builds near each other and shares roads and railways and other stuff.
The server is trust based so there are no land claims. You are supposed to read the rules carefully first. If something bad happens staff has tools to roll stuff back so that helps keep it safe.
Chat is pretty calm and people are respectful. PvP is only allowed if both players agree so it is not a constant fight server. You can join and start exploring right away.
To unlock full interaction like breaking blocks and picking up items you have to read all the rules. This is how they keep the world protected but it still feels like a real multiplayer server and not just singleplayer with chat.
If you want a peaceful multiplayer survival world that feels like it can last a long time this server is made for that.
Cozy 100 Player Vanilla Survival

Classic Vanilla SMP No Claims No Bloat
Active moderation teamClassic multiplayer vibesFriendly Survival Worldtrade focused gameplayTrusted Member Access
NostalgiaCraft is a vanilla survival SMP that is trying to feel like old school Minecraft with friends. It keeps things simple with no claims and no extra bloat so you can just play and build.
Griefing is not allowed and there is protected spawn with active staff. The world has been running since 2020 and they say there are no resets so your builds stick around.
The map is huge with a 300k by 300k world and it runs on dedicated hardware for steady performance. It also supports Bedrock players so Bedrock and Java can play together.
The economy stays vanilla style with player shops and trading and no plugin money. There are a few vanilla plus commands like sethome and spawn and togglephantoms.
They use a graylist system so you can join right away but spawn is protected for trusted members. The server is updated to 1.21.11 and they talk about an active community with events and real shops.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPGOOMB SMP Season 2 Amplified Vanilla

GOOMB SMP is a vanilla survival server that is running on amplified world generation. The world was reset about a month ago so it still feels fresh and you can find lots of new bases and big builds starting up.
At first the world border made people build close together but now it has expanded so there is way more room to spread out. People are planning new projects and sharing cool terrain screenshots and setting up shop ads and trade deals.
The End is open and the players kicked off an egg hunt event so everyone gets chances to interact with the egg and each other. Voice chats are usually busy with people hanging out and talking about what they want to do next.
The rules are serious about respect. No hate speech no NSFW and no griefing stealing or unconsented PvP. You also have to apply through their Discord before you can get whitelisted.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPAntHill SMP UK 17+ Friendly Survival

AntHill SMP is a fair and welcoming survival server that is focused on community and meeting new friendly people.
It is strictly 17+ and it is based in the UK but it accepts players from all over the world.
The server uses anti griefing measures so your builds are safer and it also has lots of quality of life plugins for 1.21.11. You can find things like ShopKeepers for player made shops plus Tree Feller and Vein Mine and BlueMap. They also say more plugins are planned and there are extra optimisations too.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPCrown SMP Needs Beta Testers Now
chill survival playCommunity-driven feedbackearly access testingno pressure gameplayVanilla Survival
Crown SMP is a new Minecraft SMP server that is just getting started and looking for beta testers.
People who join get early access and can help by giving feedback so the server can improve before it fully opens. It sounds like a chill place where the community helps shape how things go.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPAegea Semi Vanilla SMP With Economy
Community-Focused GameplayGrief rollback toolsPlayer trade shopssimple money systemTeleport request system
Aegea is a Spigot SMP server that keeps things mostly vanilla but adds a few plugins to make survival smoother. It has a simple economy and ranks so you can build up your place over time.
Players can use helpful commands like /help and /back after you die. You can set homes with /sethome and use /tpa and /tpahere to meet up with others. If you want to explore you can use /rtp to jump out into the wild.
The economy is built around selling items and player trading. You can make trade signs to sell items for your own prices and you can use /sell and /sell hand to earn money.
Ranks are based on playtime milestones starting at Nomad then moving up to Peasant and beyond like Artisan and Noble with more commands and more homes. Each month there is an election for the top player rank Premier and it lasts for one month.
You can also join teams that share a name a home and warps. The rules are simple like no griefing no stealing and no PvP without consent plus no spam no hacks no lag machines and no toxic or NSFW stuff.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP
