I found a Bedrock faction war realm that is getting ready to start soon.
They are recruiting up to 8 people or less so it sounds like a small group where everyone matters.
If you like faction fights and teaming up for war stuff this one is aiming right at that.
Bedrock Faction War Realm Recruiting

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Rattata SMP Pure Vanilla Community

Rattata SMP is a new survival server that is trying to feel as close to vanilla as possible. It runs on Paper and it supports both Java and Bedrock players.
The rules are simple and it is mostly just do not grief and use common sense. The vibe is meant to be mature and community focused so people can build together and actually trust each other.
There is no teleporting and there are no changed loot tables and no custom world generation. It is set to hard difficulty and it has 33 percent player sleep.
The server uses a whitelist and it has a live map. There is also an optional Simple Voice mod and Core Protect with /co i for looking into grief issues.
It launched on Dec 26th and you can apply to join through their Discord.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPGarden SMP Hardcore RP With 3 Lives

The Garden SMP is a Java 1.21.11 survival multiplayer server that is built around worldbuilding adventure and roleplay.
Everyone starts with 3 lives and the only way to lose them is through PvP. When you run out you become a ghost and you are past the veil. Players can bring someone back using a craftable revival book.
Some vanilla stuff is turned off to fit the roleplay like elytra and ender chests. It pushes people to build roads and ports and actually meet each other.
I also saw chest locking with trial keys plus lockpicks for breaking in. There are chest shops alcohol brewing pet taming for basically any mob and a bunch of QoL features.
When you join you wake up in the clouds then you jump down the Monolith to start. You can pick a race for your character then you wake on the docks of Isla De Viva Eterna and sail out to the mainlands to claim land or live in a town.
It sounds like a relaxed server with optional challenges no pay to win and staff that stays active with a small community.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPAdults Only Java SMP Fresh Season

I found a Java SMP that is adults only and it is in season 2 right now. It is still early to mid game so you are not super behind.
It is vanilla survival and it is meant to be long term with seasons. They keep the mods minimal and it is mostly just quality of life stuff.
The End is closed for now so people are not rushing everything. To join you do a short application then a quick Discord voice chat vibe check.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IPCave-Only Semi-Anarchy Survival Season 2

CaveMC is a semi anarchy survival server with enhanced vanilla gameplay where the entire overworld is underground. There is no surface at all so you live in a huge cave world with biomes resources and structures.
It has custom world generation made by real Minecraft developers and it is meant to be brutal. You have to be smart and tough to survive and keep your stuff.
Season 2 is out with a fresh start and new additions. A big update is the Wasteland Dimension which opens on November 8th. It adds new gear to fight over mega structures with secrets and a unique currency that creates its own player driven economy and trading. There is also a new spawn and a custom generated map for the dimension with special features.
GG.MINEWIND.NET New Server IP7-Day Apocalypse Island Hardcore Event

I found a modded hardcore Minecraft event that is built around a 7 day apocalypse story on one island. Everyone spawns together so it starts loud and chaotic and you have to figure out who to trust.
Day 1 is normal survival and you just prepare. Day 2 brings a blood moon so nights get way more dangerous and mobs feel stronger. Day 3 is eternal night so the sun never comes back and creatures can carry weapons.
Day 4 has meteors hitting the island and something starts spreading. Day 5 turns it into a dead world where crops barely grow and food gets scarce. Day 6 is rising waters and the ocean slowly floods the island. Day 7 is a tsunami and there is basically nowhere to run.
It uses a one life system. If you die players get 60 seconds to revive you and if it fails you are out. You need a microphone and you need to be able to install mods using CurseForge or Modrinth. It is first come first serve with 50 players max.
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